Lighter by Pueblo, Yung;

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Chapter 1

Self-­Love

When I ask myself what I was addicted to, no particular drug or craving stands out as the one source that led me into darkness. After I stopped the serious drug abuse, I realized that I had been using a mixture of whatever could bring me temporary pleasure to cover up a void in myself that I did not have the courage to face. The void was never satiated or content. Any enjoyment I could experience or attention that people gave me was never enough. It felt like an endless vacuum that could take in the world, spit it out, and still have room to ask for more.

The shift finally came when I stopped throwing pleasure at the problem and started nourishing myself with nonjudgmental and honest attention. The refocusing of my energy into paying attention to all my changing emotions had an immediate effect. Paying attention eased my incessant craving for more pleasure and I stopped feeling so ragged and run-­down.

I was not aware of the term self-­love when my personal journey started, but I certainly used the practice as a critical stepping-­stone. I would not have been able to move forward into a better life without this gentle and accepting attention that I started giving myself. Self-­love was the missing link. It was the key to wholeness that I was unconsciously searching for. I discovered that the appreciation you seek from others will not hold the same rejuvenating power as the appreciation, attention, and kindness you can give yourself.

What Does Self-­Love Mean?

Anything powerful and long-­lasting requires a sturdy foundation. When a home is being constructed, all attention first goes to the foundation that will stabilize the structure. Once that foundation is firmly in place, you can go on to build, expand, and create something magnificent. The evolution of the individual works in a similar manner. Self-­love is the first step that all inner and outer success is based on. Self-­love gives your journey the energy and stability to stay on a clear trajectory. It is a profound commitment to self-­discovery and to making your well-­being a top priority.

Somewhere around 2014 or 2015, a big shift started happening culturally regarding the idea of self-­love. In particular, I noticed that the word began entering the sphere of social media in a big way. I like to think of social media as a forum where humanity talks to itself, and at the time it felt as if we had collectively picked up the word self-­love and started looking at it in different ways, turning it in all directions to get a better sense of its true meaning. Many individuals were asking themselves what self-­love means to them, and at the same time I was going through my own process with the word. I wondered: Is self-­love real? Is it needed? Is this something I can apply in my daily life? Is self-­love different from self-­centeredness? What is the relationship between self-love and healing yourself?

Initially, commercialization surrounded the idea, with mainstream media pushing the belief that you could buy yourself happiness and self-­worth. But this is misleading because it confuses your needs with your cravings. The understanding that self-­love means giving yourself all the things that you want, especially in the material sense, seems fine to a certain extent, but from the experience of many it is clear that material things can only go so far. Treating yourself to small gifts or going on rejuvenating trips can all fall under the umbrella of self-­love, but self-­love should not be confused with materialism. Material things cannot give you complete balance of mind and they cannot fundamentally heal your past. It is easy to go to extremes in trying to find solace in external or material things and end up further fueling the fire of craving that ultimately results in dissatisfaction. Thinking of self-­l

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