Crucial Accountability: Tools for Resolving Violated Expectations, Broken Commitments, and Bad Behavior, Second Edition by Patterson, Kerry; Grenny, Joseph; McMillan, Ron;

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Hold anyone accountable. Master performance discussions. Get RESULTS.

Behind the problems that routinely plague our organizations and families, you'll find individuals who are either unwilling or unable to deal with broken promises. Colleagues break a rule, coworkers miss a deadline, friends fail to live up to commitments (or just plain behave badly), and nobody says a word. Nobody holdsanyone accountable. With repeated infractions, individuals become increasingly upset until they finally do speak theirminds, but they do so poorly--often creating whole new sets of problems.

Research proves that mishandled disappointments aren't just morale killers, they're institution killers--diminishing organizational performance by 20 to 50 percent and accounting for up to 90 percent of all divorces.

Drawing from 10,000 hours of observations, Crucial Accountability teaches you how to deal with common infractions such as:

An employee speaks to you in an insulting tone that crosses the line between sarcasm and insubordination. Now what?

Your boss just demanded that you meet a deadline you know you can't meet--and he clearly doesn't want to hear complaints about it.

Your son walks through the door sporting colorful new body art that raises your blood pressure by 40 points. Speak now or pay later.

Family members fret over how to tell Granddad that he should no longer drive his car. This is going to get ugly.

A nurse worries about what to say to an abusive physician. She quickly remembers "how things work around here" and decides not to say anything.

Everyone knows how to run for cover, or, if sufficiently provoked, step up to problems in a way that causes a real ruckus. Crucial Accountability teaches you how to deal with violated expectations in a waythat solves the problem at hand without harming the relationship--and, in fact, even strengthens it.

Broken promises, missed deadlines, poor behavior--they don't just make others? lives miserable; they can sap up to 50 percent of organizational performance and account for the vast majority of divorces. Crucial Accountability offers the tools for improving relationships in the workplace and in life and for resolving all these problems--permanently.

PRAISE FOR CRUCIAL ACCOUNTABILITY:

"Revolutionary ideas ... opportunities for breakthrough ..." -- Stephen R. Covey, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

"Unleash the true potential of a relationship or organization and move it to the next level." -- Ken Blanchard, coauthor of The One Minute Manager

"The most recommended and most effective resource in my library." -- Stacey Allerton Firth, Vice President, Human Resources, Ford of Canada

"Brilliant strategies for those difficult discussions at home and in the workplace." -- Soledad O'Brien, CNN news anchor and producer

"This book is the real deal.... Read it, underline it, learn from it. It's a gem." -- Mike Murray, VP Human Resources and Administration (retired), Microsoft

Hold anyone accountable. Master performance discussions. Get RESULTS.

Behind the problems that routinely plague our organizations and families, you'll find individuals who are either unwilling or unable to deal with broken promises. Colleagues break a rule, coworkers miss a deadline, friends fail to live up to commitments (or just plain behave badly), and nobody says a word. Nobody holdsanyone accountable. With repeated infractions, individuals become increasingly upset until they finally do speak theirminds, but they do so poorly--often creating whole new sets of problems.

Research proves that mishandled disappointments aren't just morale killers, they're institution killers--diminishing organizational performance by 20 to 50 percent and accounting for up to 90 percent of all divorces.

Drawing from 10,000 hours of observations, Crucial Accountability teaches you how to deal with common infractions such as:

An employee speaks to you in an insulting tone that crosses the line between sarcasm and insubordination. Now what?

Your boss just demanded that you meet a deadline you know you can't meet--and he clearly doesn't want to hear complaints about it.

Your son walks through the door sporting colorful new body art that raises your blood pressure by 40 points. Speak now or pay later.

Family members fret over how to tell Granddad that he should no longer drive his car. This is going to get ugly.

A nurse worries about what to say to an abusive physician. She quickly remembers "how things work around here" and decides not to say anything.

Everyone knows how to run for cover, or, if sufficiently provoked, step up to problems in a way that causes a real ruckus. Crucial Accountability teaches you how to deal with violated expectations in a waythat solves the problem at hand without harming the relationship--and, in fact, even strengthens it.

Broken promises, missed deadlines, poor behavior--they don't just make others? lives miserable; they can sap up to 50 percent of organizational performance and account for the vast majority of divorces. Crucial Accountability offers the tools for improving relationships in the workplace and in life and for resolving all these problems--permanently.

PRAISE FOR CRUCIAL ACCOUNTABILITY:

"Revolutionary ideas ... opportunities for breakthrough ..." -- Stephen R. Covey, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

"Unleash the true potential of a relationship or organization and move it to the next level." -- Ken Blanchard, coauthor of The One Minute Manager

"The most recommended and most effective resource in my library." -- Stacey Allerton Firth, Vice President, Human Resources, Ford of Canada

"Brilliant strategies for those difficult discussions at home and in the workplace." -- Soledad O'Brien, CNN news anchor and producer

"This book is the real deal.... Read it, underline it, learn from it. It's a gem." -- Mike Murray, VP Human Resources and Administration (retired), Microsoft

Table of Contents:

Foreword
Preface
Acknowledgments
Introduction: What Is Crucial Accountability? And Who Cares?

Part One: Work on Me First
What to Do Before an Accountability Confrontation
Chapter 1: Choose What and If
How to Know What Conversation to Hold and If You Should Hold It
Chapter 2: Master My Stories
How to Get Your Head Right Before Opening Your Mouth

Part Two: Create Safety
What to Do During an Accountability Conversation
Chapter 3: Describe the Gap
How to Start an Accountability Conversation
Chapter 4: Make It Motivating
How to Help Others Want to Take Action
Chapter 5: Make It Easy
How to Make Keeping Commitments (Almost) Painless
Chapter 6: Stay Focused and Flexible
What to Do When Others Get Sidetracked,Scream, or Sulk

Part Three: Move to Action
What to Do After an Accountability Conversation
Chapter 7: Agree on a Plan and Follow Up
How to Gain Commitment and Move to Action
Chapter 8: Put It All Together
How to Solve Big, Sticky, Complicated Problems
Chapter 9: The 12 ?Yeah-Buts?
How to Deal with the Truly Tough

Appendix A:
Where Do You Stand?
A Self-Assessment for Measuring Your Accountability Conversation Skills
Appendix B:
Six-Source Diagnostic Questions
The Six-Source Model
Appendix C:
When Things Go Right
Appendix D:
Discussion Questions for Reading Groups
Notes
Index